Carl Jung explored and developed the concept of synchronicity or "meaningful coincidences" as far back as the 1920’s. His ideas were published early in 1950’s. Arthur Koestler’s book, The Roots of Coincidence furthered the exploration of meaning through the lens of parapsychology. Today, there is much interest in psychics, near death experiences and other forms of divination. Even so, we humans still carry a lot of doubt as to what meaning can be ascribed to coincidence.
Coincidences seem to abound when someone dies. For some reason, soon after the death of a loved one there are those experiences, what my family calls ‘sightings’ of energy pertaining to our loved one. I have been recording them since the death of my son Richard in September of 2014.
Recently I went to a daylong mentorship training by a well known psychic here in Southern Ca by the name of Fleur. During one of the exercises, I met a woman who lost her mother years ago and her husband and best friend, 5 years ago. After the workshop, we communicated through emails. I shared some of the insights about the mysteries of life, death and the spirit that I am gaining through regular dialogue with my son.
MT, the woman I met has allowed me to use an excerpt from her mail as a launch of a Q & A Blog about the mysteries of life, death and spirit. It will be housed on my website: OneLife.Coach I am open to questions and observations from the community of people who have lost loved ones and experienced coincidences and want the support of a community to share their journey.
I am only using my new friend's initials here. If/when she chooses, I invite her to sign in and comment on her own. After sharing an experience I had perceiving the energy of my son, MT wrote: ”I so want that connection with my husband, and was hoping that this class would help me with that. I'm not sure I learned much. Perhaps I left too soon, but my emotions were too distracting for me. Oddly enough, about 5 minutes after I left, my 93-year-old father called to tell me that his wife (my stepmother of 40 years) had passed away. She'd been in hospice for about a year, so I wasn't really expecting it. Maybe it was meant that I leave the class in order to receive that call. I'd had the phone on "silent" during the class."
What my son has told me is that grasping…the wanting our loved one to make an appearance is constricting energy. Constricting energy closes the channel to spirit. Openness and welcoming love opens the channel for spirit energy. My advice to MT was to invite her husband’s energy to appear to her in a recognizable way…there are many recognizable ways. Music, a phone call, a thought that just pops into your head that stirs a memory, etc could be an outreach from the other side. I am sure all of us have had some coincidence related to the death of a loved one that somehow sticks through all the doubt that followed and threatens to shut down the channel.
In hindsight, MT found another coincidence that could have meaning, regarding being guided to leave the mentorship, in order to receive the call about her fathers wife. What if the mentorship with Fleur actually did open her up to the spirit realm? The emotions that she felt were reminders of pain but they could have also been reminders of love. My son was in the room that day. I felt him so clearly. In one of our dialogues, Richard says that we choose our perspective. That was a tough one to get my heart and mind around!!! Obviously, MT had free will…to act on the feeling she had or not.
The spirit is one of four parts of the intelligent system of happy. Happy comes from the balance of body, emotions, mind and spirit. OK, what is spirit? Spirit is ‘that’ which is not of the body. It is not physical. Spirit is energy. Spirit is possibility. Spirit is the essence of us…the non-body part of us. Some say spirit is the part that of us that lives on forever.
How can spirit be perceived? Meditation is a good place to start. Quieting the mind and connecting with the deeper self of no mind on a regular basis can help. Some forms of creative expression can also take us there, to the place of spirit or ‘forever’. The realm of spirit is timeless and formless. It is where we can deeply perceive our unique selves and the spirit of others in the collective field of energy.
How do we experience energy in our daily lives? Have you ever been in the presence of someone who is beautiful on the inside as well as on the outside? You see their external beauty while you perceive their inner beauty. We do this all the time. Have you ever entered a room, and felt a vibe? Well each of us gives off energy and each one of us perceives energy. So much so that we forget that we’re even doing it.
Forgetting that we perceive energy and give off energy causes us problems because energy or spirit along with the body, emotions and mind helps us to determine our direction in life. Our energy flows when we experience love and openness. Energy constricts when we are in a state of fear, anger, complaint, or doubt. When energy is constricted we won’t receive clear feedback on what is happening around us. If you continue to associate with toxic people or stay in toxic environments you risk shutting down your system of feedback.
Openness allows us to give and receive input from those around us and from the collective spirit. If you are looking for your purpose in life, one that will make you happy, you won’t find it through thinking alone. You have to be open to experiencing your own spirit energy to know which direction to turn. Most likely there are already rumblings of which direction to take but fear of the outcome might be an obstacle. Challenge your fear and live your OneLife HAPPY.
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The mind is one of four parts of the intelligent system of well-being. Well-being comes from the balance of body, emotions, mind and spirit. The mind is a very complex and amazing system of functions and processes: including thought, thinking, memory, imagining and awareness. For the purposes of this blog, I am referring to the mind and not the brain and it’s domain over the entire, intricately interdependent system. It is easier to separate body, emotions, mind and spirit to see which areas are open and clear and which areas are closed or constricted, in order to gain insight, make necessary changes and achieve balance and flow, which can lead to happiness.
Thought is a mental act of the mind where we can address our needs, attachments, goals, commitments, plans, and desires. It is here that we can understand what makes us happy. Thinking is a cognitive function, which enables us to understand, recognize, comprehend and respond to the environment and to each other. Thinking about what makes us happy leads us back in our lives through memory. Memory or experience of what has made us happy in the past can bring visceral good feelings into the present but memory doesn’t generate a present, renewable source of happiness.
Imagining a future of happiness is a mind activity that generates unique situations, images, ideas or activities, that could or are likely to bring happiness. Imagination, is a projection usually of data from past experiences, into the future of what is likely to bring happiness. While thoughts of what could bring happiness can change feelings in the present, they are generally not a full bodied experience of happy and require action to make them so. For example, a person may imagine their perfect partner, perfect job, perfect home or perfect vacation. The happy image is likely a compilation of past experience and fantasy. Of course, to bring that image of happy to life requires a number of steps or changes to align one’s intention with action to create that projection or some form of it into reality. If we are thinking about happiness and projecting it into the future, we might not actually ‘be’ happy in the moment. Sometimes a belief that if only the current conditions or obstacles were removed, such as problems, pain, or suffering then happiness would follow. That belief could have debilitating results because the absence of an obstacle doesn’t automatically create the presence of desired happiness.
Awareness is an aspect of the mind that perceives, observes and reflects on the relationship between oneself and one's environment. Awareness is that part of the mind that learns over time to recognize patterns of behavior and change. Awareness is that part of the mind that can stand outside of itself and witness itself in the present moment. Bring awareness into your life on a regular basis is like an Awareness Selfie, where you observe yourself in the present moment. Taking an Awareness Selfie a few times a day can be very useful in understanding what types of experiences you usually find yourself in throughout the day. Are you usually complaining or criticizing someone or something? Are you usually resistant or down? Or do you feeling in charge of your experience? An Awareness Selfie is the first step in recognizing where your mind usually is. This information can help you to identify what you would like to change in your experience and bringing that change into you life, in the present moment.
Pain, suffering, and complaint are constricting energies. Happiness and love are open energies. You get to choose where your want your focus to be, anytime throughout the day.
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