Have you ever had an incident, a situation, an event or a shock that has left you feeling like, everything has just changed in a flash moment? A event that left you with a feeling like my life will never be the same. You might have received a Wake up Call. A Wake Up Call stops you in the tracks. You don’t know how to continue but you know that you cannot continue in the direction that you were going.
There are many different experiences that can cause a Wake Up Call. For example, your life partner announces that he/she has changed their mind and want out of the relationship. Or the start-up that you started is failing. Or your boss informs you that the company is downsizing and you don’t need to come in for work on Monday. A Wake Up Call could come from the sudden death of a loved one, or a terminal illness diagnosis from a doctor. A Wake Up Call is usually not something that you want to embrace because it inevitably involves change that was unwanted and generated by you.
What to do when a Wake Up Call comes?
When a Wake Up Call comes it can bring with it grief, trauma, sadness, shame, and/or psychological and possibly physical pain. Our human desire to control change can cause feelings of being overwhelmed, exhausted and isolated. The concept of letting go seems ridiculous because what you want is to hold onto the way things have been.
5 Things to do when a Wake Up Call comes:
1) Breathe. This sounds simplistic but calming yourself down will go a long way in reducing stress.
2) Space. Give yourself some space to process what is happening with people in your inner circle who you trust and who you know care about you.
3) Journal. Write everything that you are feeling in a journal, in a stream of consciousness sort of way. Don’t filter and don’t judge your feeling. Don’t share your journal with anyone, unless you are in therapy.
4) Reflect. Explore the meaning that emerges from the event that have taken place. What do you feel now? Take ownership of authentic feelings, knowing that they will evolve and change over time.
5) Additional change. Don’t make any additional changes until your life has calmed down, unless additional change is necessary for safety. If you must make additional changes, keep them to a minimum.
These 5 steps will help get cope with the initial stages of a A Wake Up Call.
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